Another well-armed angry young man goes on a murderous spree and again political ambulance chasers jockey to take advantage to win points for their pet projects.
President Obama used the recent massacre at an Oregon college as an opportunity to campaign for gun control measures that would not have prevented it. Militant 2nd Amendment gun rights advocates responded with the tired ‘good guys with guns’ arguments and arming teachers as the solution. Others ranted about correlations between pharmaceuticals and deranged minds. (Well, duh?)
Those using the issue for their various (political) causes seem to be vastly misunderstanding the actual issue. Their response is a knee-jerk reaction rather than a careful analysis of fact and their canned solutions show the functional fixedness in their thinking. There are too many assumptions that steer the current conversation and could be distracting us from addressing the real problem.
Many seem to assume that killers are simply incurable killers and we simply need to better secure ourselves (with more guns or gun control laws) against this inevitability of angry men. But could a killer be stopped before they stockpile weapons and act out their violent fantasies against those who they blame for their unhappiness?
Perhaps more guns, curbs of liberty and drugs (more or less) are not the solution to the real problem?
The root issue is that a young man made a choice to act violently. He had reasons, rational or irrational, for the choice that should be understood. (Note, I am not saying that the choice was justified, I believe murder is always immoral and a sin.) We should acknowledge the choice as a choice and at least explore the possibility we can help those who are tempted by violence to choose rightly.
#1) Understand the Problem is a Person
I think often there is an urge to sanctimoniously distance ourselves from the bad actors of society. Simply labelling the perpetrator of violence as a “thug” or “monster” or “animal” allows us to build emotional wall of separation between ourselves and evil deeds. If we were to acknowledge the humanity of the person doing the evil act we would be tying our own humanity to the evil and in a sense making ourselves responsible.
Fundamental attribution error or correspondence bias is an assumption that another person’s behavior is all a product of their defective character. (And, again, I do absolutely believe in personal accountability and responsibility for choices.) But then, what it comes to our own bad choices we always have an external excuse or justification and blame circumstance for our choices.
Killers do what we do. Killers often feel justified in what they do like we do because they were cheated or mistreated. They take out their jealous rage against those who they blame for their unhappiness. It is actually their humanity, the fact that they have emotions or just desire for significance—like we all do—that they act. The difference is that they choose to turn to acts of violence rather than grace.
The answer to the perceived offenses we endure is not hate or vengeance and love for our enemies needs to be encouraged. We need to fight against our own urge to be consumed totally by securing our own rights and love others as we would like to be loved. We should distance ourselves from using their evil choices to justify our own. We must love the hurting person behind the choice before they make it.
#2) Recognizing that Social Needs are Real
The elephant in the room is the vast changes in American culture and lifestyle that correlate with the trend of mass murder. We are linked with more and more technology, but are actually less connected (in flesh) than generations prior. Community has been replaced with increasing individualism and isolation. It is not a change without consequence.
People are not good in isolation, people have social needs and can be damaged by lack of adequate human interaction. Just a bit of research into solitary confinement or extreme cases of child neglect quickly show the psychological consequences are profound when social needs are not fully met for extended periods.
Perhaps the ideal of suburbia is not so ideal after all? Suburban life is not extreme isolation. But, in many cases, it is an environment deficient of social interaction—and especially in the case of single child homes. A child without brothers or sisters and separated from regular intimate interaction with other people is probably going to feel a deficit.
The problem is exacerbated for those who are socially awkward or shy. Some people are able to make friends everywhere, they are outgoing, easily put others at ease and popular. Other people struggle getting past that initial barrier of first contact, they watch frustrated as others interact with ease and feel ignored. Nobody wants to be marginalized.
We need to start recognizing that society and lifestyle do have a part to play in the choices of individuals. We need fewer fenced in yards, fewer spiritually empty McMansions and more opportunity for inclusion for those who would otherwise be marginalized by their natural dispositions or disabilities. We need less individualism and more community spirit.
#3 Bringing Outliers into our Community
There are some people who are probably gone beyond hope unreachable. There are some who have a defect that makes them almost impossible to relate to and interact positively with.
However, I do not believe that is the case in all cases or even most cases and we could do better at finding a place for those who need a place to belong. There is no amount of entertainment or material wealth that can fill the void of purpose caused by social isolation. We should not underestimate the role of community in shaping individual attitudes and mental health.
I see a solution in intentional community. A friend recently posted a story about a preschool in a nursing home. It was a beautiful example of the social needs of elderly being met by their inclusion with children. That is the type of mindset that could be applied more broadly.
But intentional community doesn’t need to start with a collective managed structural change like melding elderly and child care. It can start with how we as individuals interact with the outliers among us. It starts with our being aware that there are those who are marginalized and suffering from social isolation. If we look for it we can be a help.
It takes a change in perspective. Perhaps the weirdo is weird only because they have no friends to help them assimilate? Are you willing to be that weird person’s friend and bring them into your circle of friends? Forget mass killers even, what if we could prevent one suicide by being more proactive and inclusive? What if we could make one person’s day better?
#4 Know the Individual Power You Wield
I believe many of us underestimate our own influence. We turn to solutions like guns and laws because we feel too small to fight the demons of our culture without them. We look for ‘silver bullet’ solutions (pardon the expression) and forget that people are complex social creatures. One-size-fits-all solutions are not the best answer.
We need to fight back against evil, but not with superior firepower which is often misused or increased enablement of governments that often ends in abuse. We need to overcome evil with good. We need to fight isolation with inclusion, beat social awkwardness with understanding and prevent the seeds that lead to violence from ever taking root.
It takes a community of willing individuals to solve community problems. Violence against the community is intended as an attack on the community and must therefore be addressed as a community. But the community is not those we elect to represent us, the community is us and the problems of community require us as individuals to take part in being the solution.
Stop looking side to side or over your shoulder waiting for someone else to save society from its own destruction. Instead use your own unique talents and abilities, search out the needs in your own community and fill them. As the saying goes, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, and maybe even just a hug or smile can make a life changing difference.
#5 The Example of a Social Physician
Jesus was an advocate for unpopular people. The religious people of his day criticized him for what they perceived as his lack of judgment for his inappropriate mingling with women and men who they saw as inferior. Jesus turned the tables, he condemned the socially powerful and popular, he spoke for those marginalized by society.
There are many Gospel accounts like this…
“While Jesus was having dinner at Matthew’s house, many tax collectors and sinners came and ate with him and his disciples. When the Pharisees saw this, they asked his disciples, “Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?” On hearing this, Jesus said, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’ For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.” (Matthew 9:10-13)
We don’t like the IRS today, but tax collectors in Jesus day were traitors who had sided with the Roman occupation of Palestine and were hated by the Jews. In the eyes of his accusers he was guilty by association. How could a great man find company with traitors, prostitutes and other sinners? But what is greatness without mercy to those who need it most?
Jesus was greater because he was merciful to all people, even the least of society and we should follow the lead he offers. We should be doctors of social ailments. We do not excuse or offer justification for sin anymore than a doctor is an advocate for disease. No, we, like a doctor, need to diagnose the true problem and provide the right cure.
We can exercise the same power to heal as Jesus did. We have a choice to create a better society. We can choose to respond to problems with love and not fear. We need to be the solution in the same way as Jesus, by overcoming prejudice through self-sacrificial love and love for the enemies we face every day.
God bless. Be strong. Be a solution not a spectator.