There was a Baptism service at my church this past weekend and not the usual indoctrinated from birth teenager either. This was a married couple in their thirties come in from outside the Mennonite religious tradition.
We had Communion that night and the devotional was about how Jesus asked “take this cup from me” when considering the suffering he would soon endure. The cup we drink at Communion is a voluntary commitment to “take up the cross” and suffer with Jesus.
Baptism is a serious commitment. Jesus urged to “count the cost” before making a commitment to follow after him and his converts were adults. This seems in stark contrast to the evangelical emotional appeals for a decision and child conversion of the current conservative Mennonite culture.
Mennonites, or rather our Anabaptist ancestors, suffered persecution because they (among other things) rejected infant Baptism in defiance of the established religious order of their day and tied the ritual back to profession of faith. This is called “Believer’s Baptism” and a commitment made with keen awareness that it could come at a tremendous cost.
Baptism Age: Then Compared To Now…
We, as Mennonites, especially conservative Mennonites, take pride in our Anabaptist identity, we like to use it as something that makes us unique, special or separated and, put plainly, better than other Christian denominations.
But are we?
Are we much like early Anabaptists and Mennonites who came before us?
In my own church experience, as noted, the ‘conversion’ to Christianity often comes at a very young age and most are Baptized as teenagers. This is probably a reflection of a departure from our Anabaptist roots and embrace of more recent Evangelical innovations. We, unlike our predecessors, have pulpits to pound on, Sunday school hours aimed at children and Revival meetings with strong emotional appeals.
So, what about our Anabaptist heritage, how does *their* normal for conversion compare to our own?
When did *they* get Baptized?
According to a GAMEO article on age of Baptism this is the answer:
“The estimated average age of baptism for 10 representative Anabaptist men and women, 1525-1536, was 36.4, with none under the age of 20, two between the ages of 20 and 29, four between 30 and 39, and four between 40 and 49.”
Early Anabaptist converts were often adults who could likely more fully understand the commitment that they made and knew it could be a death sentence. Mennonite converts today, by contrast, are often children, products of a careful indoctrination from a young age, taught to please parents and through ‘conversion’ gain access to the perks of cultural acceptance rather than lose it.
Which leaves a question of whether or not our child converts actually able to count the cost of being a disciple of Jesus or are they simply doing what is culturally expedient and trying to keep up with their religious peers?
Sure, we could say that our children (because of our great teaching and example) are more ready for a serious commitment than say, for example, a 16th century German peasant facing death, a safe assumption, right?
However, then we get to the topic of marriage commitment…
Marriage Age: Then Compared To Now…
As far as I can tell our Amish and Old Order cousins are doing just fine in regards to courtship and marriage—It seems to be business as usual for them. However, in the conservative Mennonite subset I am a part of there also seems to have been a shift away from marriage commitment.
When compared to prior generations we are waiting longer and longer to tie the knot. My great grandma, not uncommon in her day, married as a teenager, and my grandparents married just into their twenties like my parents did. But in my own church today there’s nearly two pews of those twenty-five or older who never married and hardly even dated.
The subset of Mennonite I belong to came under the influence of fundamentalist voices, men like Bill Gothard (who remains single) and others, that taught a courtship model. They have embraced an idea that basically turns a first date into an engagement. Friendship, let alone development of a romance, has become nearly impossible and it is because there’s this fear instilled in both genders to prevent even healthy interaction.
These fundamentalist Mennonites have also come under the influence of worldly entertainment. Despite our traditional dress and slightly more cloistered communities, we are exposed (through internet and other media) to secular millennial generation values. Mennonite fundamentalists, like their worldly counterparts, are postponing a marriage commitment longer and more never do tie the knot.
Could it be possible that we value freedom from responsibility over commitment and our temporal pleasures (like freedom to travel or other self-satisfactory personal projects both religiously or otherwise justified) over the risk of a long-term relationship?
But, more importantly, what does this reluctance to show romantic love say about our faith? Can we claim to be committed to God when we can’t even make a serious commitment to loving each other?
Why Do We Baptize Younger, but Marry Older?
I believe our practices betray our inconsistency of thought and departure from the identity we claim as our own. It is cognitive dissonance, hypocrisy, etc. We urge our children to commitment before they are able to count the cost as an adult, but then continue to mistrust that decision after they do so as if we do secretly know better.
First we often urge them to wait to be Baptized. We save that public confirmation for teenagers who went through a young believers class, which is nothing like the Baptism immediately upon profession of faith as was the case in the early church.
But then, even after that, we continue to mistrust the commitment when it comes to courtship practice. Mennonite suitors are not treated as an actual brother in Christ when it comes time to ask. No, instead they are treated as if a hostile invader who must prove himself worthy by running a gauntlet and can be instantly disqualified if he dare be too honest about his own imperfection.
We might ridicule Catholics and Lutherans for doing the opposite of us (for Baptizing their infants and then confirming them as believers later on) but should probably be careful not to throw stones from our glass houses. We should instead consider the beam in our own eye and ask why we are urging commitments that we don’t fully recognize or completely respect later on.
We tell tales of Constantine marching his troops through a river and calling them Baptized. Yet could it be that we are really only manufacturing pre-programmed religious robots? Sure, we produce children who recite back memory verses, spout out our dogmas on cue, and give all the right sounding answers with a smile on their face, but are as evil as the world at heart?
Adult Commitment Rather Than Premature Birth and Underdeveloped Faith
In Christian commitment (as in marriage) we should probably be encouraging our adults to commitment and telling our children to wait until ready. If a person is too young to commit to marriage then they are also likely too young to comprehend the true cost of discipleship and make a commitment to God.
As one who was physically born early (my mother’s labor induced rather than natural) there is clear danger in going ahead of schedule like this. I spent weeks in the hospital, in plastic box seperated from my mom because of a collapsed lung, and seemed to have developmental issues since as a result.
Likewise, encouraging premature spiritual birth could be to our detriment and leading our converts to struggles down the road. Perhaps we have become like Abraham who tried to create a fulfilment of God’s plan through his own efforts? Ultimately our children are not saved by our good parenting, frequent altar calls or courtship standards.
We need to return to a radical faith that emphasizes the cost of discipleship and encourages adult decision rather than urge premature commitments. Perhaps the our young adults would be less fearful of lessor commitments and more ready to sacrifice all for love than cling forever to their childish fears?
Whatever the case, there is something very special about an adult Baptism and a decision made by one more fully aware of the cost of commitment. May God bless Dan and Dina for their testimony of faith and their public commitment yesterday.